This helps you get a sense of your biggest concerns and understand where to place your focus. “Sometimes it’s easy to give in to a sense of urgency that can just cause more stress and anxiety,” Chlipala says. “Take it one task at a time.” Once you’ve identified your stressors, don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Bell explains why “patience and compassion toward yourself” is always the right move. “We must remember that committing to a new habit takes time,” she says. “Rather than putting too much pressure on yourself, start off with small steps and realistic goals that work for you.” RELATED: 7 Physical Signs You’re Way More Stressed Than You Realize Setting these goals applies to your friends and how you treat yourself. “Challenge your negative self-talk—you can create unnecessary anxiety and feelings of depression by believing every thought that you have,” Chlipala says. “Challenge your thoughts—think of alternative explanations and stories. Look for evidence that the meanings you’re assigning aren’t true.” One boundary that could make this easier? Cut back on social media. “Set social media-free time,” suggests Chlipala. “It’s difficult not to compare yourself to what your friends on social media are doing, which can make you feel worse about yourself. Or if you’re dating and fed up with your online dating experience, take a break.” RELATED: How to Change Your Instagram Settings (and Habits) to Improve Your Mental Health Finally, ditch the FOMO (fear of missing out). While you are important, and your presence at events is surely felt and loved, things will go on without you. “If you are a self-proclaimed people pleaser, say ‘no’ more often,” Chlipala says. “You’ll also create evidence for yourself that things will still work out even if you’re not a part of it.” “Research shows exercise can help boost your mood and manage anxiety and stress,” she says, helping you take on boundary-setting with a clear, confident mind. And if it’s been a while since your last sweat session, there’s no shame in starting a workout routine from square one. RELATED: 5 Things That Happen to Your Mental Health When You Don’t Get Enough Exercise “Try to incorporate mindfulness into your daily activities,” suggests Bell. “Mindfulness is the ability to be present, free from distraction, with an open mind and a kind heart. You can integrate mindfulness into your day-to-day by bringing more awareness and compassion to the things that you are already doing, such as during your commute or while eating a meal." Take a few moments to fully focus on even a small task, putting all other thoughts away. It can be incredibly beneficial to your mental health. RELATED: 14 Self-Care Quotes to Help With Depression and Anxiety “Not all therapists sit back and listen,” Chlipala says. “Find a therapist who is proactive and can give you information and tools to help you, and can hold you accountable to make sure you are prioritizing your mental well-being.” RELATED: How to Find the Right Therapist for You
